To Truly Know Someone's State of Mind, Look at Their Bedroom

I am certain that everyone reading this was taught by their parents or guardians that they must always make their bed when they wake. But some stop this habit as they grow and live independently, whether in the back rooms of their homes or their own houses. This is not merely limited to the bedroom but extends to their overall lives.

As we grow older, this is not merely about making your bedroom tidy, but it becomes a reflection of our thoughts.

People always leave hints about what they may be going through psychologically. A clustered and an untidy space directly correlates to a person's state of mind. You hear people saying "I am all over the place", and when you look at the spaces they live in, it's exactly that, everything is all over the place.

I have always been cognisant of this and have always made sure I make my bed before I step out of the house. But when you do not know this, it is easy to think "I am late, I'll make my bed and tidy when I come back", before you know it, a week has passed without making your bed. This is often observed with boys/guys.

Some make the excuse that "I am a guy," expressing the untrue notion that boys are naturally untidy. If you were taught to always clean after yourself as a child and, then as an adult, act the opposite, that cannot be a natural, inevitable regression unless you were a Mama's boy who always had someone cleaning after you.

Since this behavioural pattern is significantly apparent in boys, it demonstrates the type of mind the male has. They tend to have more unruly and uncontrollable thoughts, and therefore, this gets reflected in their personal spaces. If you are a female and get involved with a guy who always has an untidy living space, that is a sign of what you are dealing with, even if they say otherwise.

However, the reflection of this psychological distress happens to everyone. What happens in our minds first gets reflected in our bedrooms, then extends to all our personal spaces.

For example, a clustered, untidy and dirty car is a reflection of that person's psychological state, their work spaces, their bags, their wardrobe, etc. These are directly correlated to one's state of mind. The calmer and at peace you are, the more your spaces will be cleaner and structured too.

So, to get through someone's state of mind, look at their personal space, particularly their bedroom. People can easily say something opposite to what is truly the truth. Therefore, to know the kind of person you are dealing with, be it a potential partner, friend, or associate, scrutinise their personal spaces before you find yourself winding up in their troubled lives.