5 Signs That Someone Is Secretly Studying You For Your Weaknesses

Sometimes we get so comfortable and accustomed to those around us to a point where we fail to recognise when someone secretly studies our weaknesses.

Those who study you generally study you for malicious purposes.

They study your weaknesses more than your strengths.

They are sneaky about it; they closely observe your reactions, behaviours, and habits. Solely so they can predict you.

No matter how close you are to someone, it is essential to be able to distinguish whether someone is genuine with you or is aiming for something bigger by placing themselves close to you. And whatever that is, it is likely going to hurt, derail, or destroy you.

It all starts with having the ability to decipher and detect their cues. Some cues are obvious, but we just get too oblivious to see them.

So, before someone collects patterns from you to identify your weaknesses, identify their intentions first.

Here are some of the signs that someone is secretly studying you for your weaknesses:

1. They Ask But Rarely Share

They ask a lot of questions about your past, dreams, fears, plans, and many personal questions. Yet they don't share theirs. A conversation with them tends feel like an interview. They are doing "data mining" through probing you about your life.

2. They Remember What You Forget

Because they are collecting patterns and data, they easily remember the things you say. Particularly, things that they feel might be revealing of the weakness they aim to discover. Something you might've said months ago, they quote it back to you. That is not just them having good memory. It is storage. They archived that information for future use.

3. They Deliberately Test Your Boundaries

For every boundary you may have, they cross it to see what you'll tolerate and what will break you. No matter how small the boundary may seem, they want to identify your pressure point. Every reaction you give them teaches them something about you.

4. Their Tone is Dependent On Your Mood

When you are strong and confident, they are softer towards you. When you are weak and down, they press on you. All this is done to identify your reaction to their action. They do what is called emotional calibration.

5. They Joke About Your Insecurities

When someone jokes often about your insecurities and vulnerabilities, it is a clear sign you should stay away from that person. Disguised as mere humour, their jokes are their way of identifying your reactions. If they laugh, and you display hurt, they laugh even harder to see you crack. In so doing, they would've known what button to press to bring you to a state of weakness.

Therefore, in your day-to-day interactions with others, it is essential to identify those with sinister intentions towards you. Being aware of such behaviours is the first step in protecting yourself from exploitation and demise.

The ideal way to lead your life is always to guard your reactions and choose what to reveal.

Those who secretly study you for weaknesses always think they are covert. But your ability to easily spot their behaviours exposes them. And in turn protects you.

We all need to cultivate discernment in everything we do and the people we encounter. Knowing when openness serves you and when it feeds someone else is what makes the difference.