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You Are Not Behind in Life, You Just Need To Learn This One Rule

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A majority of people who feel they are left behind in life often overlook the one simple rule of life. Their lack of awareness of this results in them being miserable and disappointed with themselves.


The primary flaw people commit is to look at their friends or peers as a basis for judging themselves. They do not have a clear goal of where and how they want their life to look. They merely live in accordance with what society dictates, doing what others are doing as a means of doing what is 'expected' of them.


The rule I am speaking of is that life is not fixed.


Without it being fixed, it remains fluid, and everyone goes through their own unique experiences, which will always yield different outcomes at different phases of life for each individual.


Those who feel left behind look at others more than they should.


They see how others' lives turn out, and they judge whether or not they are on the right track. They have no sense of understanding that the next person is who they are because of how their unique experiences have shaped them. They think that if person A has a house at the age of twenty-five, it means they are being left behind if they still stay at home at the same age.


They gauge their successes or failures by looking at their peers instead of looking inward and navigating their own unique life journeys without prying into others' journeys.


Our lives will never be the same since our experiences are not the same. So why would you feel as though you are left behind by your friend when your individual experiences, attributes, and virtues are different?


The more you feel you are left behind, the more it signals that you are looking too much to the outside world instead of looking within. And that will always leave any person discontented, miserable, and at times, depressed.


"In life, you arrive with nothing, spend your whole life chasing everything, and still leave with nothing. Make sure your soul gains more than your hands."

  • Rumi


Being envious of other people's possessions is the outcome of feeling left behind. Since life is not fixed and has no manual, it is the best approach to look inward and find your purpose rather than obsessively looking at those who have already found theirs.

 
 
 

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